Love Yourself Like you Love Your Significant Other
We tell our BF’s & GF’s that we love them all the time. We compliment their outfits, their bodies and their amazing personality traits on a daily basis. No wonder we feel so good about ourselves when we’re in a relationship! It’s easy when someone is constantly reminding us of our greatness. So why don’t we be that person who always tells us how fantastic that we are?
A lot of us may already love ourselves, but that is not enough. To really feel good about ourselves, we have to show that love and be good to ourselves. We should be our biggest supporters. When we give ourselves love and compliments all of the time, we don’t need to keep searching for it from other people. When we love ourselves, we don’t let how other people feel about us shape how we feel about ourselves.
I realized today through a conversation I was having with my mother while she was trying to leave, (thanks mom), that I am too hard on myself. Sadly, I am constantly pushing myself to do better and telling myself that what I have already done is not enough. No wonder I want a relationship! I want relief from myself. I don’t want to deal with the constant pressure that I put on myself. I just want to be free, happy and feel loved. I’m hoping other people are reading this and thinking that they do the same thing. Really, I think most of us can learn from this to treat ourselves a little better.
Would we tell our best friends that their 3.9 was ok and that they should do better? Would we tell our friends that running 3 miles was alright and that they should run 5 next time? Would we tell our acquaintances that they could stand to lose some weight? I don’t think so. I think often, we can be our worst enemies.
So here’s some great action steps that I will be taking in the following weeks and you should to, to show love to ourselves
- APPRECIATE:
The same way that a friend would tell you good job and give you a hug if you accomplished something, tell yourself that you did a great job. Reward yourself after a workout. Instead of thinking negatively that you should have worked out longer (which I sometimes am guilty of) applaud yourself for working out just like anyone else would. Acknowledge any of your accomplishments, no matter how small. If you make a good dinner, appreciate your great cooking skills. Watch how big of a difference this will make.
- BE AWARE:
I started to be more aware of my thoughts today and I realized just how negative I can be towards myself. Just being aware of my thoughts is helping me to control and change them to more kind ones.
3. COMPLIMENT JOURNAL:
This one my mom gets credit for (even though I have heard of it before) After our long conversation, she told me to write down things that I love about myself every day. To make it more specific, I am aiming to write down three compliments to myself every day. Even though it seems like such a simple thing, I really think that it’s going to make a big difference. My mother also said to elaborate on the compliments. Don’t just write ‘I’m smart’. Give detail. REALLY compliment yourself.
I can’t wait to see the amazing results. Post your comments letting me know if this post helped you at all and I will keep you posted on how it helps me. It is much easier to spread light and love to others when we feel love for ourselves*
“You is kind. You is smart. You is important.”